Abu Dhabi Moms of Teens
What we’re about
Share your personal and collective experiences of parenting the “teen” phase of your kids.
Gain insight into the Teenage Brain, the facts, myths, realities.
Discover “How to Talk so your Kid understands what you mean?”
Discuss how to maintain healthy boundaries for yourself first, and your family?
Experience group coaching to feel supported and gain inner strength for yourself.
Leave each session feeling energized and refreshed to become a “mindful mom.”
and most importantly, have a safe place to know you are not alone! There is no need to suffer silently through these years – be an informed mom and learn how you could be a “present” mom.
Just when you think you have grasped your parenting style, the adolescent years change everything. According to research, “The brain is not fully developed until age 21, and in some cases 25.” Which makes it a tumultuous time understanding kids who cannot understand what is going on in themselves.
I have over 15 years of experience working with youth, aged 13 up to college going students, and have successfully helped them by studying their “behavior” – what works, what does not, what motivates them, and what kind of support they are “actually” looking for.
If you wish to know more about these sessions, email me at email@example.com to learn more about how I can bring this program to you or your fellow community Moms.
Session 1: Are you taking care of yourself?
Sometimes the MOST important person in question is the most ignored when it comes to self care! Do you get exhausted each day? Are you afraid of your teen’s outbursts and daily interactions? Do you feel helpless and wonder “what is wrong now?” Do you feel you keep on giving and it’s not good enough? If you find yourself doing everything, and still feel “bad” or “pushed away” this is the place to know that “all is well”.
You can be the authentic parent you want to be by learning how to be “mindful” of what is actually going on in your teen’s life and brain. “Are YOU taking care of yourself, as a parent?”, is the topic of our first session. What are some things YOU do to nurture yourself with compassionate loving kindness, or not? What 3 things can you start using right away to Feel Loved and Valued while you parent?
Expert and research-based information with tips and tools will be shared with practical strategies that you can start to apply after the session.
Session 2: The Teenage Brain – What you need to know to handle yourself and them?
This session, we dive into the “Teenage Brain”, to gain an understanding of what specifically is going on in the brain and physiology of your teen, so you can:
- Effectively communicate with an increased understanding and awareness of which part of the “teen” brain is being used.
- Know why they are highly sensitive and emotional? What part needs to be heard first so they can feel they matter.
- Understand why they act, or not, the way they do.
- Start to respond versus react in daily situations.
- Have a strategy to get them engaged when they interact with you.
Session 3: The Phases of Teenagers – from ages 11-18
To help your teen, you have to understand your teen. Just when you feel you are done figuring them out at age 12, you feel it’s not over at 14, 15, 16, 17, and yes 18! This session will address EACH vital stage according to the ages of teenage development. Expert and research-based information with tips and tools will be shared with practical strategies that you can start to apply after the session. You will learn:
1) What exactly is their mind and body undergoing?
2) What your teen needs from adults and grown-ups?
3) Key actions to provide what they need.
You can be the authentic parent you want to be by learning how to be “mindful” of what is actually going on in your teen’s life and brain.” The goal is to be aware of the progress towards helping yourself, not perfection!
Session 4: Why Teens Do What They Do? What 4 Needs Are Being Met?
The more you understand what basic needs are driving your teen’s choices, the more instinctive you’ll be at helping him/her choose more effective and responsible ways to get these needs met. Based on the model used by William Glasser, the 4 needs will be explained according to a teenager’s mindset, and what exactly is it that they are wanting to address in their lives. What needs are clashing for both you and them? What can be said and done to enable mutual understanding and communicate from a space of “acknowledging” each one’s needs and still maintain your parental influence.
You will leave energized and in a state of informed knowledge with the “how-to’s” to apply in your daily life.
Session 5: Knowing when to “Lean In” or “Lean Out” can actually be helpful.
Being a mom can be hard, especially if you are dealing with unpredictable adolescents. This get-together aims to form a support group to help mothers cope with the challenges of raising teenagers through scientific facts and clarifying myths and parenting patterns that are counterproductive. If you find yourself doing everything, and still feel “bad” or “pushed away” this is the place to know that “all is well”. You can be the authentic parent you want to be by learning how to be “mindful” of what is actually going on in your teen’s life and brain.
Purpose: The goal is to create LIFELONG relationships for families that include mutual respect, understanding and meaningful communication even in college years – YES, it is possible!
Sadaf is very well versed with the challenges that parents face today and has an ability to help parents find practical solutions and empower them with tested practical tools that helps parents engage in a much more constructive manner with their children. She is a very engaging, skilled and a knowledgeable person who helped me understand some facets of the teen thinking, at the same time giving me some helpful tools to work with when having those difficult and challenging discussions with my “to be” teen.
– Dua Shahzad Ahmed
Mrs Sadaf was the right person to help me to address the changes in my son’s behavior, to explain all biological changes that affect not only body but as well the brain, to understand why they are all emotion with traces of sense. She returned our right to be parents who set rules to protect and prepare kids for life. I like her personal approach. She even helped with school and its demands, and gave advice how to help children organize their time, cope with homework and exams planner. The most valuable thing she gave us is a feeling that each minute spent with children, whether you are teaching them how to study or how to behave in various situation can be sorted out without being overwhelming.
– Nevenka Nikolic
As far as the sessions are concerned, they have been designed thoughtfully to explain how the teen mind works and major issues of parents of teens were discussed both in general and individually. The sessions were made more relatable and real by sharing of personal experiences during the sessions. Adequate support was given to deal with the emotional baggage during and after the sessions and it helped immensely. Personally, it was a wonderful journey of self discovery not only as a parent but also as a person.
Not only did I learn how my child thinks and reacts but also it gave me an insight into my own strengths and weaknesses as a parent. I had a very good experience with Clear Horizon Consultancy and would recommend it to the Moms of ALL Teens as an essential part of their parenting tool kit. Most importantly it taught me that Its okay to make mistakes and move on and its never too late to build that special bond of love and care between you and your child. And it has worked wonderfully for me and my son. Thank you !!”
They were so many Real-life examples, teaching what to say and what to do in real life scenarios and providing helpful quotes that I’m still using till now. Sadaf is always reachable and responsive. She is generous is providing extra support and guidance whenever needed, for moms as well as their teens. I learnt that the “teenager phase” is temporary and yet ongoing, and no matter how rejected we feel, our teenagers need us, they still need love, attention and feel of worthiness. Sadaf was the reason in me gaining my confidence back to manage my teenager in a calmer way. Sadaf is always positive, shares her personal experiences and very professional in her work.
– Wafa Bengra